To me, this is the classic Hawaiian proverb that defines the Hawaiian laid-back but authentic way to deal with life. It’s the ultimate shrug-with-wisdom – clean, efficient, and brutally honest. With this saying, there’s no overthinking, no drama, just a reality check wrapped in aloha. Another way of thinking about this is that some things line up perfectly (can), some things just aren’t built for your lane (no can).
What does this have to do with cigars? Actually, a lot, and I’ll get into that below. But this morning, while I was trying out the Powstanie San Andrés cigar pictured above, I was thinking about how I evaluated cigars, and that saying came into my head. And I realized that it’s a philosophy from which I’ve operated, not just with cigars, but with life in general, so I thought I’d share my thoughts on it.
1. Reality is the first ingredient
A cigar either fits the moment or it doesn’t. A project either has the conditions to succeed or it doesn’t. No amount of forcing changes the truth.
If can, can. If no can, no can.
2. Respect the blend
Every cigar is built with intention. Every person, every idea, every situation has its own architecture. Don’t ask a Connecticut to be a Broadleaf. Don’t ask a 46‑ring gauge to behave like a 60.
Let things be what they are.
3. Don’t fight the leaf
If the wrapper wants to speak, let it speak. If the moment wants quiet, give it quiet. If the day wants intensity, bring the San Andrés.
Flow with the natural character, not against it.
4. Effort is good; forcing is not
You can light, cut, rotate, and coax — but you cannot bully a cigar into greatness. Same with people. Same with work.
Push where there is give. Release where there is none.
5. Attention is the currency
A cigar that rewards your attention is worth your time. A cigar that wastes your attention is not. This applies to conversations, commitments, and ambitions.
Spend attention where it multiplies.
6. The moment chooses the cigar
Morning asks for clarity. Afternoon asks for structure. Evening asks for depth. Life has the same rhythm.
Match the energy, don’t fight it.
7. Clean fermentation, clean living
If the process is honest, the result is honest. If the fermentation is sloppy, the smoke is sloppy. If the intention is muddy, the outcome is muddy.
Purity in → clarity out.
8. No shame in “no can”
Saying “no can” is not defeat. It’s wisdom. It’s boundaries. It’s the refusal to waste time on the wrong leaf, the wrong moment, or the wrong fight.
No can is freedom.
9. “Can” is commitment
When you say “can,” you show up fully. You light the cigar with intention. You give the moment your presence. You honor the craft.
Can means yes with your whole chest.
10. The world is simpler than people pretend
Most decisions collapse into two buckets:
- This aligns with who I am → can
- This does not → no can
Everything else is noise.
THE CLOSING LINE
If can, can. If no can, no can. Everything else is just smoke.
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